Why, How and when he became my best friend.
It was a shady time of my life. Facing a lot of dark sides at the same time in my life which has shaped me out as what I am today. The only reason that I kept going with my life was simply the belief in change that may come some day and trust in myself that I could do anything I want even when the whole world is against it. It was also a particular time of my life when I trusted no one as friends. Never took anyone in my circle. Two reasons a) Low in self-esteem b) Never saw true care till then. I was in my 2nd year college. I lost my best friend. It came as a shock because everything happened over night. I heard that he committed suicide 3 days ago and I was not revealed about it. He said so much to our friendship, how great, how true everything was. And one fine day everything was gone. A sudden loss was too much to take. I started getting away from the rest of the world. Everyone seemed to be so strange.
One day my friend Ramyaasked me that one of her friend Parthiban, was so inspired by my, self motivation and wanted to be my friend. This was really surprising for me. No one has ever offered me to be their friend. I was a lonely soul. I was very hesitant at first, thinking that he will just be like another guy who will end up in talking about sex after a certain topics are always over with a girl.
He was a real surprise package. We talked more about science fiction, life, mythology, politics and I was absolutely comfortable with it. Then slowly I started accepting him in my life. It took almost a year to build the trust between our friendship. May be that’s why it still stands so strong. He means a lot to me, an inspiration and aspiration. No one ever offered a leaning shoulder to cry on without gains or commitments. He was the only one then. The first time in my life ever realized what a friend could do to your life. There are so many things that can be shared only with a friend.
When I start trusting someone so much, I start trusting every word they say. It becomes my taraga mantra. It’s like a blind trust you have towards GOD. Whether he gives you happy times or sad times we still trust him and worship him with complete love and surrender.
Living in India and coming from an orthodox background did give our friendship a lot of tests. Many people did rumor about us. But to share true friend ship with someone in life is like a meditation. When you have learned it perfectly, no one can disturb or take it away from us. Our friendship was a meditation in my life that I have completely attained. Initially I had been keeping people out of my life for the fear of losing them. But when it comes to parthiban, it’s completely different. Even if there has to be a situation in our lives that we had to part, it could only be our minds. We will always cherish, nourish the sweet moments spent together. The world’s secrets shared. The mythological stories argued over. The fantasies in the world still fantasized over. Discussion over politics which I never tried to understood. Some of the great books he introduced me to. Sharing the deepest sadness and greatest happiness’s of our lives.
I have so much to keep talking about these pages of my life. It is simply never ending.
I like his quality of respect he has for women. Recently he got engaged and is getting married this May with the love of his life. I wish them thorough happiness throughout their life.